Imagine a situation where you are more or less content. You have your routines. And then comes information that means change, Maybe you reject it. Think it’s irrelevant, or don’t even notice. (“There is a new virus but it’s in China, it won’t come here.”) Eventually it stands clear that a change is a fact but less clear what the implications will be. (They call it a pandemic. What does that mean? What impact will it have on my life?) The third phase is confusion. Since it’s a chaotic state it is a common reaction to back into rejection. But to get stuck in a loop between rejection and confusion is far from ideal. It’s painful at puts you at risk of depression and passivity. Rather, it’s better to push through these phases and get to re-orientation, a phase of inspiration, curiosity and creative energy. That takes energy as well and optimal is to find a balance of contentment and inspiration that works for you.
In what state are you at the moment?
In order to move past rejection: ask clarifying question and discuss what’s going on, preferably with someone that can help you get another perspective.
When in confusion, it’s useful to remind yourself that it’s a passing state, things will get better. Get some help to sort in thoughts and emotions.
Re-orientation means that you can see possibilities and you are more courageous, driven by curiosity. Don’t forget to prioritise and make sure also to develop the ideas and to implement.
Article: Is the change curve a myth? (Oxford Review) (Spoiler: “The change curve, on the basis of the research evidence, does exist and is a real phenomenon.”)